DISCIPLINE VS PUNISHMENT
Hurray…some feedback. This blog in the spanking series will address a question asked:
“surprised you use it only for discipline and not punishment my question to you would be what is you definition of discipline and of punishment?”
Excellent question. I will do my best to answer it. Basically my philosophy is based on the book Female Domination by Elise Sutton.
Now lets start with punishment because it is easier to describe. For me a punishment is the accomplishment of an unpleasant task or action due to the misbehavior of a sub/slave. A rule may have been broken, neglectful behavior may have been done, results are nowhere near my expectations even with clear instructions, excessive brattiness, etc. You get the idea.
Now for discipline. Let’s look at the root of the word. It comes from the Latin disciplina “instruction”, from the root discere “to learn”. Also from this root is derived the word “disciple”, or pupil. So the pupil (sub or slave) learns from his teacher (Dom/me). Are you all still with me? Now lets wrap it all together within a BDSM context. I regularly discipline (instruct, train) my sub/slave, through spanking mostly, to maintain order. Its my way of making sure he/she does not forget the rules and does not get slack in his/her tasks.
Need a vanilla context to understand better? You must wash your hands before eating. You find it annoying but you impose it on yourself because otherwise you might get sick from eating (food= a pleasurable experience) with dirty hands…which would be a result of your neglect.
Now why do I use spanking only for discipline and not also for punishment? Very simple. Discipline should not bring up feelings of fear, wrong doing, guilt, or any other negative feelings associated with punishment. The pupil should not fear training.
Makes sense no?
Lady Evyl
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Thank you interesting
I am loving this series on Lady Evyl. Spanking happens to be one of my all-time favorite things when it comes to bdsm.
I can understand drakor’s surprise and question, in some respects.
Sometimes my Master used the same physical training alternatively as discipline or as punishment.
For example, I had really nice whippings that made me feel good all over in every way. And then there were times when I was whipped simply to be punished. And those kind of whippings were used as a consequence of my behaviour, being bratty or not properly focused.
My Master always took great care when he disciplined or punished me in any way, I should say. At no time was I ever abused. He was always concerned about my reactions.
So, I just wanted to bring up my whipping example to illustrate how some Doms can use the same physical training for different means.
I must say I think I will always enjoy a really good spanking. Just nothing like it.
Thanks for writing this interesting and thought-provoking spanking series. Love the images too!
Small correction~
I meant to write:
“I am loving this series on spanking, Lady Evyl.”
Sorry that didn’t sound right the way I wrote it originally!
Thank you Angel for you comment. And btw what a difference a comma makes. Imagine you wrote
“”I am loving this series on spanking Lady Evyl.”
Guess who would need a spanking then…that would be a top 10 bratty comment
Lady Evyl
You shouldn’t say such comments to me, Lady Evyl. Makes one WANT to be very bratty in order to earn that special spanking from you…hehe