Today I would like to talk to you about a toy unlike anything I would normally show here. How so? Well it is probably the plainest, most vanilla, blandest looking toy I have ever reviewed. But as they say never judge a book by it’s cover. I did not choose to review this toy for my sexual benefit at all, I chose it because I really think it is a tool that can be very helpful to some women out there.I wanted this post to be more about sexual empowerment and breaking taboo barriers…in some small way. Of course being the perv that I am I also found a way to incorporate it into a BDSM environment he he (see end of post for that).

Let me introduce you to the Vibrating Dilator Set, a design part of the Berman Center Intimate Accessories Collection. Yes, it is plain, it is pink, it is very plastic. This toy was truly conceived, like all Bergman toys, to appeal to the vanilla, sexually unexplorative little house wive-like type of people who think the closest they ever will come to kink is a hair gone awry on their head. This vibrator serves its purpose by not being threatening. Why? Because it is primarily designed for women who may have medical issues on a sexual level.

Why dilator? A dilator induces dilation…or stretching…of a tight, scared or traumatized hole. One starts small and as the body adjusts one can move on to a bigger size…once the body and the mind is ready to accept it. The Vibrating Dilator Set is ideal for someone who experiences pain during intercourse; suffers from sexual anxiety; wants to strengthen their pelvic floor; or maybe just had an operation or a baby and the vaginal area is super sensitive.

The design I have to admit is very clever. The core piece is the vibe (takes two AA batteries) motor and the smallest insertable part which is 0.75″ X 3.5″. There are 3 larger shafts that can be attached with an interlocking system, like feet that you slide in, at the bottom. The sizes are  1″ x 4.5″, then 1.25″ x 5.5″, and finally 1.5″ x 6.25″. One can use this toy with or without vibration but usually the vibrations help to relax the muscles and makes the experience more pleasurable. The vibrations go from low to high gradually – just turn the cap at the end of the handle accordingly. A silicone blend sleeve with nubs is included in the kit…just slip it over the sleeves for added sensation. Finally a violet chiffon like pouch comes with it for storage. Since it is see threw it’s not exactly discreet but it is very girly.

So it may look boring but it is a wonderful toy if women can gain confidence in themselves and sexually. A healthy sexual life is so important o one’s overall health, kudos for developing a toy that can help on that level. I just have two concerns. The first is that I find hard plastic hurts after a while, at least for me the vibrations feel hard at some point. Second I wonder if the little plastic feet that attach a shaft to the core piece may break off after a while.

What I have to say from my personal experience with this toy: the small shaft equates a bullet so nice for clitoral and as far as vaginal penetration I like it big so largest shaft for me it is. BUT, as I said before, you can easily take this toys into a BDSM scene too. Know what it is great for too? Anal dilation! It is the perfect tool to have your bottom get used to anal play if they are starting and zero experience. Just make sure to use a condom every time if you take this toy through the back door.

To clean your Vibrating Dilator Set just use antibacterial soap and warm water. Do not submerge the motor part and make sure the cap is screwed on tightly prior to cleaning. Keep in mind the sleeve is a silicone BLEND so it is porous. You cannot completely sterilize this toy so using a condom with it is not a bad idea. On its own you can use any lube, but with the sleeve in use only use water based lubricant.

Specs:

• Small Vibrating Dilator
• 3 Interlocking Graduated Sizes
• Soft Silicone Blend Sleeve
• Power: 2x AA batteries
• Materials: hard plastic and silicone blend (sleeve)

Thank you to the lovely people at Goodvibes.com who sent me this toy for review