I am so excited! Well I have been for a week but now I can tell you. Babeland asked all reviewers to participate in a new feature: Bloggers’ Picks by sending in a fave review. The winning reviewers were picked on several other factors as well. Guess who was one of the lucky picked participants? Yep Me!

I am so honored to be featured in Babeland’s first ever Bloggers’ Picks. Go check it out and find out what is My Pick of the sex toy litter . Hey it’s a rare chance to see a glimpse of my face lol.

I work/ed with a lot of companies for sex toy reviews and my very first review was with Babeland. I have been with them ever since and I just love them. Being recognized this way for my effort is just incredibly touching! Thank you!

I have the worst natural nails on earth. Thin, soft, breakable. And fake nails usually do a number on my natural nail bed. But sometimes I treat myself to a gel kit, like I did this this week. I am also really tough so I break those off fast enough, a miracle I had them on 3 days before one broke.

I had to take a pic for posterity. I laugh at how they look just like the nails porn stars have in porn movies.

After watching and reviewing Billy Castro does the Mission (CONTEST SEE BELOW) I started asking myself….what is queer today? I knew it was nowhere near the original definition of it but this movie really had me asking myself that definition of queer seems quite larger then I remembered. Let’s investigate with Wikipedia…

A little history…

Since its emergence in the English language in the 16th century (related to the German quer, meaning “across, at right angle, diagonally or transverse”), queer has generally meant “strange,” “unusual,” or “out of alignment.” At this time it was still not associated with anything sexual. Only in the 19th century does the term start to gain its implication of sexual deviance, especially that of homosexual and/or effeminate males. Subsequently, for most of the 20th Century, “queer” was frequently used as a derogatory term for effeminate gay males who were believed to engage in receptive or passive anal/oral sex with men, and others exhibiting untraditional gender behavior.

Contemporary usage

Some use queer as an inclusive, unifying sociopolitical umbrella term for people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, transsexual, intersexual, genderqueer, or of any other non-heterosexual sexuality, sexual anatomy, or gender identity. It can also include asexual, autosexual people and those doing activities placing them outside of the heterosexual-defined mainstream such  BDSM practitioners or polyamorous persons. In this usage it retains the historical connotation of “outside the bounds of normal society” and can be construed as “breaking the rules for sex and gender.” It can be preferred because of its ambiguity, which allows “queer”-identifying people to avoid the sometimes strict boundaries that surround other labels. In this context, “queer” is not a synonym for LGBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender) as it creates a space for “queer” heterosexuals as well as “non-queer” homosexuals.

I consider myself heterosexual, maybe borderline heteroflexible. I have dommed women in sexual and non-sexual scenes. The sexual ones where not a sexual stimulous for me…the dominating part was. that ‘high’ comes from the shared energy of a scene with another human being, regardless of their sex. I have kissed maybe 3 women a bit more passionately -only 1 made me a bit more curious-, my mouth touched maybe 2 female breasts.

With my sexuality just now somewhat defined I never in my life thought I would qualify as queer, at least not before my new discoveries above. I am a BSDM practicioner and I practice activities outside of the heterosexual-defined mainstream. Me, queer? I am open and welcoming of anyone who tries anything sexualy as long as it is of legal age and consensual. I have many queer friends. But for me, my personal sexuality, I can be old fashion. Me, queer. It is a weird pill to swallow at first but it is going down.

Some say fetishists and BDSM lifestylers are the next ones up on the sociological chopping block, joining the ranks of gays and lesbians to fight for our rights and be recognized by the government. In Montreal the A.L.C.C. is trying to do just that: get a public voice for alternative lifestylers that are described above as queer. It is the only organization of it’s kind in Canada that we know of and I am proud to be part of the team trying to get it off the ground. I guess the term queer will change some more as the decades go by and new people will be welcomed under this umbrella, even unexpectant members such as I. I AM QUEER!

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CONTEST

So I received a 2nd copy of this DVD and I am giving it away to a reader. How to win?

Mandatory:

Visit this Green Sex web page and tell me what your fave listed toy is in a comment on this post.

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You have till Aug 08th, 2010 midnight EST to enter. The winner will be chosen at random & announced on Aug 09, 2010 EST.

Oh what a nice holiday I had down in North Carolina with muzhik. Although there were some BDSM events on the agenda we had decided to keep my visit at his place more vanilla and chill. We really played the tourists, it was really nice. This also means my best nondescript pics are all of a vanilla nature but hopefully you will enjoy them none the less. A couple of pics do have a kinky connotation!

Out of my 6 days there 2 were spent at the beach. I LOVE the ocean, nothing it more soothing in the world for me. See my porter carrying all our stuff he he.

Foot in sand a few feet away from the ocean equals a Happy Mistress.

muzhik made me discover sand crabs, yes these crabs are right beneath your feet by the water.

A walk in the marina made me envious of sailboat owners. This one has quite a sense of humor, wonder if he is also into bondage lol?

Not living by the ocean always turns me into a 4 year old when I really am at the beach. Here I am looking silly and here are some sea shells I brought back.

But there were 4 more days to fill. We had a museum day, a botanical garden day, a lazy shopping day. We seem to have a bad habit of getting out of the house relatively late in the morning so the tourist role play part is short. And one day was a TMG munch in a park with about 60 attendees. It was a lot of fun. One night was spent at Melequus (whom I stayed with in January) who was hosting a weekend long Playpalooza event. And one night we had an invite to a private play party at Miss Scarlet and whisper’s place. We also had a dinner invitation at my friend  Nev‘s place for a great evening of food and chat.

I love the crate myrtle trees here, they are everywhere and so colorful. These pics are from the Raleigh Arboretum. The second pic is Muscadine grape with which a local sweet wine is made.

I have no idea why but we did not bring or put on any sunscreen when we went to the Arboretum. It was freaking HOT that day and I got a light sun burn. I had to take a pic and claimed it as “Working on my redneck tan line”. It is no longer there (evened it out at the beach thank god).

It is another world for me going to the south of the US, my being the ‘foreign’ Canadian girl as muzhik like to tease. Life is so different here and men are a weird mix of both southern proper charm and grittiness. Even the trucks have balls! lol.

It was a wonderful vacation, if not very busy. No rest for the wicked, right? Return to reality and routine has been more then hard. I want to go back to the beach with my boy now!

I am back, well physically. mentally I am still not here. That may take a while as I am in total denial lol.

I hope you enjoyed all the toys reviews while I was away. I will have a few interesting blogs coming soon about my trip down to Raleigh to see my sub muzhik. We got to attend 3 local Kink events. Just gimme a bit of time to catch up on life.

Funny enough it was so freaking hot down there I was dying. But turns out Montreal was actually suffering much worse temperatures. Well the thermometer said the same thing in both locations but the humidity in Montreal is a killer. I have been living in my bedroom where I have AC…set up my lap top and a TV in there. Cats snuglle me all day too in the bedroom. And AC is the only good point of having to come back to work today! And to think in Raleigh they would ask me if I ever knew such heats in Montreal. HA! It’s worse here.

So stories coming soon. Thank you muzhik for putting up with my abuse for 6 days, thank you Nev for the social time and dinner at your place, thank you Mel, Miss Scarlet and Whisper for hosting parties, as well as TMG for the big Munch.

I the mean time I leave you with a naughty pic for entertainment! Change the guy with someone more average and you got a scene I did witness at one of those parties!

Life is just insane lately and I am having ablast, just not so much related to BDSM right now.

But as of Friday 5pm I am oof for 2 weeks and headed for 1 week to raleigh NC to stay with my boy muzhik. I am so excited. There are a few events going on while I will be there too and the friends I made from my last trip in January are all a fluttetr for my return. it will be a busy social calendar!

Mayne stories to come from that I am sure!

Someone just wrote to me:

lol. you are usually right. I’m learning not to argue with you.

And its a woman at that! Finally….1 person is learning…only got 6, 999,999,998 people to go!

Kidding (yes I know M K you are rolling on the floor right now)

I just love the long weekend in May. As many other Canadians do, the long weekend of Victoria Day is the first pre-summer getaway of the season. I ran away from Montreal as fast as I could after work Friday into the arms of my great friend Miss Susan in Toronto.

For me it was not a priority but more a curiosity, it coincided with the 2nd edition of Torture Garden in Toronto. Anyone with a minimum of knowledge of the fetish or BDSM world had heard of the infamous Torture Garden parties. With its solid origins in London, TG claims to be the world’s  leading fetish club. Following much success this party started traveling around the globe with TG parties in Paris, Rome, Edinburgh and Toronto.

We decided to attend a workshop on the Saturday called Pressure Points given by my good Montreal friend Dunter. I had never attended this workshop of his and how much fun can it be to learn pressure points on the human body to control the movements of a play partner or sub. LOTS! This workshop was a BLAST. If you have a chance to take it do not hesitate. After a bit of an intro, Dunter would show us some points and then we would pair up and practice them. I partnered with Miss Susan. Yes I had no choice but to let myself get hurt! But it was worth it. I loved the workshop!

We then attended our one TG party of the weekend, the big Saturday Extravaganza. Now this will not be the most encouraging review about the party but there is a very good reason why. I am not into fetish parties, I am not into standing around for hours on end, I am not into showing off big costumes. It is just not my thing. On he other hand I am very happy to say I did attend a TG party once in my life because they are world famous. I can say: been there, done that and bought the T-shirt. I remain a simple BDSM sadistic Mistress at heart that likes to play and if not playing sit on couches and socialize with my friends in a quieter club.

Now even getting to the party was ordeal as the Saturday party was sold out before I got to Toronto. But Miss Susan yanked her connection chain and we got on the door guest list (kisses my friend) So the party? Much smaller venue then I expected and it was not crowed at all when we got there. But eventual it did fill up. Costumes and latex galore were lovely to look at and the stage shows of the evening were pretty fun to look at. Even had a flesh hook performance and fire show. The music was good and it did get me in a dancing mood a couple of times. One BIG bonus compared to other such events I went too….good air circulation and did not get over heated. Hey I am a comfort gal!

Now the upstairs dungeon area SUCKED THE BIG BOOB. It was small, the stations were pathetic and very bad and dangerous lighting. Now Miss Susan, who switches, surprised me by asking if I would play with her. We did tease about it at the beginning of our friendship courtship oh my now going on 2 years about. But we never did play. And I see her as my peer. I mean we are constantly emailing each other at work 9 to 5 mon to fri lol. I could tell after the pressure point workshop there was a bit of a play dynamic blooming. So when she asked to play I saw it coming but I was surprised. But how can I refuse such a wonderful invitation he he. We played for a bit on the kneeling horse and it was lots of fun, even under the mediocre dungeon circumstances. It made my evening. Besides that, the party was OK.

I won’t bore you with the rest of the weekend details. Just see one picture above…it was a great finally to the end of my stay. This is how the bill was presented at the restaurant where we had lunch before I made my way back home. Thank you my dear friend for having me and I had a blast spending time with you….so much. Hugs and kisses my dear, love you xoxoxox

So happy to introduce my next workshop that will take place at the ALCC.

The English class will take place June 9th at 7 pm

And the French class will be June 16th at 7 pm

“Let’s Have a Ball -CBT Intro (Cock and Ball Play)” – English

Instructor: Lady Evyl
Cost: $10 per person

Info: Exploring the various techniques used in play and in torture of the mal genital anatomy: cock and balls./Exploration des différentes activitées de jeux et torture des parties génitales de l’homme: les testicule et le pénis.

You must RSVP to info (at) thealcc.org – max 15 attendees. You must contact the ALCC directly to reserve your place.

The one and only pic i have to share from my weekend in Toronto. Miss Susan was kind enough to let me play with some long white eyelashes. it was my first time putting some one and they were very cool, a bit annoying, but cool. Going to invest in some for sure. What do you think?

Actual blog of the weekend coming soon!