Now does that not looklike a lot of fun…lucky guy!

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Two weeks ago today I was at my host’s house in Raleigh North Carolina. I had been invited by Melequus to her home and city and local dungeon for a cell popping workshop. It was quite an honor and a pleasure to be there. Honestly so much happened in my 4 days there I am not sure where to start, what to talk about or in which order. So bare with me in this blog…just go with the flow!

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Melequus lives in Cary county in a very cute and quaint country house with lots of land and a stable for 2 horses and is rented out! I had my own lovely room on the 2nd flour with a balcony. I am a city gal so for me this was completely different and I was gaga over the horse. This is horse country! Horses everywhere. In Quebec farm lands have mostly cows. Friday was leisurely and we drove around a bit in the town of Chapel Hill which is super cute actually. Its got a big university so it had lots of hip coffee shops and bars and all.

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Danger was in the air though as soon as I arrived in NC…the coming snow and how everyone was freaking out about it…to the extent that both parties I was due to attend were possibly to be canceled. I am from Canada so even if the population there is very unaccustomed to snow I had a huge problem  sympathizing. The governor actually declared it a State of Emergency!!!!! I think I saw finally at most 3-4 inches accumulated. That is a flurry for me. But when in Rome….I did my best to smile and go with the flow.

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But in the end nothing got canceled. Friday night a party was thrown in my honor at a Femdom dungeon called FAD…although the party was not a Femdom party as usual, just rented for me that night. An online friend, Nev, living in NC organized it for me and it was so wonderful to meet her in real life. During evening I also met rich. Mel had matched us up months ago on Fetlife in hopes that she would secure me an interesting sub to play with while there. rich and I had on/off communication and there was good potential. I did play with him that night and it was a very pleasant scene. he is not very experienced but seemed eager in his ignorance of what he liked or did not. Although he said CBT was something he enjoyed and I love CBT! he got quite a beating in the end, I got quite an interested crowd watching and fun was had by all.After our session he offered himself at my disposition 24hrs a day till my departure and also offered to drive us all to La Fortress the next day, the dungeon where I was to give my Cell Popping workshop. A sweet offer I gladly accepted since by now the snow was falling, La Fortress is normally a good 1hours drive and he claimed experience in bad driving weather conditions.

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Saturday rich picked us up at 2 pm and we got there shortly before 4pm…the time I was due to start. I also never saw so many cars in ditches along the highway. Had it been nice it would have been a record attendance with 80 people signed up. But since it was the end of the world about 20 showed up…which is more then the normal monthly workshop. We even started an hour late as guest on their way called to say they were in a ditch but asked if we would wait lol. For the evening portion of the party about 35 people were present in total and as it was decided the day about 20 slept over as to not have to drive on the snow covered roads.  So it turned into a really fun slumber party and they had prepared eggs, bacon, biscuits and coffee in the morning.

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La Fortress is awesome. Its an entire dungeon house in a country setting. The kitchen and living room are common grounds to socialize without play. The basement is a huge dungeon with about 10 stations. There is also a big medical room on the first floor and another play room and an attic. The workshop went really well and the demo was awesome too with my ’stunt-bottom’ being none other then Nefarious, Mr SouthEast Leatherfest 2009. I got lots of great feedback and 2 sessions in the evening involved Cell Popping. it was an honor to see people wanting to incorporate it into their play.

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A bit later I did my 1st of 2 scenes that night with rich…a bondage scene with a bit of CBT, spanking, flogging and a wonderful mindfuck opportunity. We later had a 2nd scene too and I was just pleased by how well we played together and I just loved the submissive energy he was feeding me. The second scene involved him being tied to a padded ladder. At the end he came off the ladder shaking like a leaf. he said he could not remember the last time he had felt such an adrenaline rush. he may be new but has pain slut potential. I also incorporated a cell popping into our session. I wanted him to remember me for a while so I marked him with my initials on his hip. But this time we definitely had started to really feel a mutual connection. it was really nice having someone there with me, genuinely serving me, rather then a sub making an effort to please the visiting Mistress.

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I asked rich to spend Sunday with me to give a bit of a break to my host who was by my side for 3 days now. he then took me on a drive through the country and the capital, Raleigh. I also asked to see the ghetto area as we just don’t have such ‘defined’ spots so much in Canada. Sure we have neighborhoods that tend to attract a larger number of particular ethnics but its not the same. Here its still has that old South flavor to it. It was not so bad and we did come across a spiffed up old police  car with a young dude in it. I got a pic and the driver saw me he was laughing and smiling. probably thought I liked his car when I was actually taking a ‘ghetto car’ pic.

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After we went back to his place so he could shower before dinner. I picked his clothes, inspected the marks after 3 play sessions (lovely!) with Me and he showed me his gun collection as pr my request! GUNS…omg! Again, Canada is not a gun country. Sure people have them but you are not allowed to carry one on your person while walking down the street (legally). And honestly the majority do not own them. I have never been around guns. So I had to take a pic of  me with some of his guns.

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We went out for dinner to a more traditional NC food place. I ordered a local wine and had chicken and dumplings (yummy). he ordered side dishes for me to try: pulled pork appetizer (excellent), creamy grits (not bad with the cheese), collard greens (meh, was OK) and corn bread (yummy) with Pot Liquor (gross). What is Pot Liquor you ask? It’s the liquid that is left behind after boiling vegetable greens and meat. rich told me as a kid this stuff was usually thrown out in the woods behind their house and no one would EVER consider ordering it, he found it funny to see that on the menu.

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Sunday was a precious day spent in great company. It really made the trip. A note one play and the scene there. Fetish is non existent there…its just BDSM and they take it safely and seriously…they play a hell of a lot harder too in public. I am talk real sadism and blood play and all but completely done in a safe way. Honestly I liked it better then the current Montreal scene which is going towards fashionable fetish parties and pure BDSM night are getting more and more scarce. I hope to take what I learned on this level in NC and do my best to help Montreal find a more solid BDSM root again.

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This last picture below I just received today from NC….it’s some of the last snow still found in Cary county from the ’storm’ when I was there. Too funny!

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So I had a fun little exchange with my boy brock last week. I love getting him in trouble on purpose and then using it all against him. Of course so does he, right boy? Remember my reader he enjoys manipulation for light financial doming too and this is what this exchange is about.

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So I’ll give you a partial rundown of our email conversation last week:

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LE

Will you have some time alone anytime soon for your task? And has my list to Santa been taken care off?

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b

i don’t know when i’ll have time alone for sure Supreme One, gf doesn’t go back to work until the 4th. No Santa hasn’t placed the order yet either. When i’m in the house gf is usually right there doing things with me, and i can’t do it from work.

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LE

Are you trying to piss me off on purpose

Did I not consider taking you back becuase you claimed you belonged to me and would do EVERYTHING in your power to follow MY commands as ordered????????
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b
Dearest Lady Evyl

No i’m not trying to piss You off at all.

Yes You did and i am doing everything in my power to please You short of sending gf on here way.
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LE
So how are we goignt o fix this?

I have been beyond good with you working your way back up, have I not?

I do have a suggestion of course. I can order my gift as I have your cc info (and don’t be surprised you know I do). you know very well I would never use it without permission…but reading this you are gripped with a bit of fear and anxiety. And at the same time my whorish little boy is getting all hard fro me. Aren’t you boy?
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b
W/we can fix this in any way that pleases You.

Yes Lady Evyl You have been very good.

i have bought You a lot of things over $XXXX to date. All though i am a slave to my submissiveness and does excite me very much all with taking me to poor farm.

You suggestion is fine but i’ve changed CC’s since You last ordered something so You’ll need my new one. Yes Lady Evyl You do have me hard and squirming.
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LE
HAHAHAHA, you actually have kept a tab of how much you spent on me? I LOVE IT…that is too funny.

Oh I know my little worthless whore is squirming for me. And tell me what have I not let you do one single time since you have been back at my service, or working your way back?

Yep, that is right, you have not been aloud to come for me once. Perhaps, if I am in a good mood once I get your new cc number, I may permit you under my specific direction for this afternoon or way back home.
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b
Why is that funny? Have You been keeping tab? Has any sub spent more?

You are right You haven’t allowed me orgasim. What are You planning to do with me new cc number? i so wish You weren’t so far away and i could be in Your presence.
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LE
No I have not kept tabs, I can’t be bothered…it would be your job to do that you are close to reaching first place. There is one higher number. you won’t achieve it this time around though lol. But in time if you are good.

The faster you get out of the ground the faster we will discuss you coming here…so you can be in my presence

Now I know you, don’t forget…you are stalling by not sending the number right away as I demanded!

I expect it in my inbox on my return from lunch, clear?

And then will think of a devious return home for you!

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That was then followed with our games of extracting the new CC number out of him and tasks of self CBT in the process. he was all squirming and ready by then end and my Santa gift is on its way.

Good boy!

This week it FINALLY happended. It only took about 5 months. Ok its not like we were dedicated to the cause, we waited for others to come forward…but this Wednesday it finally happened.
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I am talking about the CBT demo I offered to give, a mini workshop, for two friends of mine who are relatively newer Dommes of the scene.
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It seems many have this theory that any Domme has a following of devoted subs. Its kind of BS. Sure some do but most not. So we all at various times just put a note in our online profiles we were looking for a guinea pig for 1 CBT demo. Yes we got responses but none suited us. Either it was sub all 3 of us new and we did not wish to be in that posistion with them…or (no offense) much old dick speciems then we wanted. Or of course we had a lot of ‘please use me as you wish Mistress’ that we never met before and talking to them a bit reveiled how unreliable they were. So hope had gone down the drain a bit.
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So different scenario. I met a ’sub’ months ago from online. We met once for coffe and it was a good potential. We met again for play and it was pretty good. We met a third time and it was not good. This was always with some weeks or months apart. Then I recently heard from him again after months of disappearance asking if we could meet up. I told him he was nice and all but I just did not feel the Ds connection. He very graciously answered back thanking me for the time I had given him and what I taught him…but he agreed he was maybe more kinky then sub. His answer was just so sweet and sincere I agreed to just socialize and maybe do a bit of rope since we both enjoyed. We met up and well had a agin a hit and miss meeting. But I brought up casually the CBT demo and he volunteered!
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I was in shock because he is not a masochist at all and gets nothing out of impact play. But he was sincere in his offer, I already knew him, I knew I could depend on him…he was perfect. So I contacted the Ladies and a date was set. I prepared my little worŝhop, he actually showed up earlier then the Ladies. Although we were pressed for time we had a blast during the demo. Of course I think he was a bit under pressusre to, ahum, perform at all times but he was really great. And he gave great feedback to the Ladies during the demo. We all had a great time.
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There are 2 points though were he was disappointed but that we found hilarious. We did not push to much but when ever we did something to his jewels that was a bit painful he actually thought we would sympathize and stop in fear of hurting him HA! We did not torture the boy bt we looked at him laughing and sai ‘yeah, it hurst, to bad for you’. And since there was nothing sexual in the end we did allow him to finish himself off in front us…to which again the pressure was too much lol. Poor thing left with sore balls and no relief. One thing he did want to do is proove to the Ladies he could take the 5 pound weight on top of the 1 pound clamp and I had done to him before. I think he is quite proud of this now, rightfully so!
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The Ladies really had fun and we had a lovely little dinner after (and 2 bottles of wine). They loved him a lot as our guinea pig.
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Not sure what the future holds in my relationship with this guy, I would be very happy to count him as a friend. With all our failed attempts I would never expected to continue contact but I have come to regard him with great respect, friendship and sincerity. You never know how thing will go with the people you come across.
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Picture by benatural

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Oh how I love the whimpering sounds that slip through the mouth of a sub enduring a CBT experiment of mine. I love to experiment with it and push limits. And I am always on the lookout for fun new CBT toys. So when I saw the Ball Crusher up for review on Extreme Restraints I could not pass up the opportunity.
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Although the torture device look of it is awesome, I was at first a little disppointed at the quality of the construction of it. It is very solid steel but it is a dull silver finish. But it does not hinder obvioulsy its effectiveness. Imagine unfinished industrial look. I would say it weights about a pound on its own. It is a heady rectangle with a large screw on one end that pushes up or down a metal bar. The balls or the whole penis and ball can be inserted and tighened into place.
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I got to test it out on 2 victims for this CBT toy review. The first was out at the local BDSM club this past Saturday night. A fellow Mistress friend and I went to town on a masochist friend of ours. After his back and buttocks were well worked over we flipped him over and worked the front. I placed the toy on him and we left it hanging there for a while as we did other activities. It certainy got a nice reaction from the crowd and many came to ask about it. You can see the pic here to the right on Saturday night.
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And Sunday I had a kinky visitor at my place who also was a willing victim. But I also got him to try some weights with it….the heavy ones. Here you can see on the right his pic with a 5 pound weight hanging from the loop in the handle. He only could take a minute of it lol. After I had fun dragging him around the room a bit usign the handle a bit like a leash…..love little subtle humiliation.
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What did I think of the Ball Crusher? I like the look of it on a boy for sure, its intimidating looking to them when you put it on. The screw is slow to go up and down so at times I feel like I was turning forever. I did like though how just a little turn could turn tight to just a bit too tight (in a good way). I love the look on the boy’s faces at that point. On its own its not so heavy but I like the ease of hanging some weight to it.
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So what did the boys think of it? Both said it was OK and a good idea. Both had a same complaint as well. See the pic below. See the free space where the moving bar meets the side of the rectangle. Yep its decent size gap that is perfect for pinching the skin if you don’t really hold the balls in place when tightening. Both complained about pinching. They did like the feeling once on and did not find it too heavy on its own.
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Overall its a fun toy to add to your CBT chest if you are into it. If you are not good at CBT I would say skip this one because it does take attentive care a bit during installation. I give it a 3 stars out of 5.
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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