I am slightly traumatized by this Japanese Hello Kitty MAC Cosmetics Make Up Collection

I don’t get it…but it’s kind of bdsm kink focused.

I am scared!

I am a proud Mama today, my baby is 2! Cross posted on KSL

Please let me take a moment to say how I love everyone single one of you that has/is contributing to http://www.kinkysexlink.com and to all our loyal and new readers. THANK YOU!

Just like a 2 year old toddler testing a new world, we are about to change some of the formats here on KSL. As of today we are a community of weblogs by self-identified fantastic Kink, Fetish and BDSM Bloggers and Authors to. We will go into a syndication platform in order to inform, educate,raise awareness and encourage discussion between fellow kinksters and the curious vanilla folk.

PRIVILEGED authors who have established a good relationship with KSL can post websites directly on KSL as well. These special bloggers get their biography published on KSL as well.

Who can join?

On our site you’ll find a cross section of BDSM bloggers: from male/female subs, slaves, Masters, Mistresses, Switches, D/s couples, Fetishists, Sadomasochists, AB/DLs, Leather people, Polys, Genderqueers, Sissies and Maids, Gays, Lesbians, TG/TV….the whole ball of wax.

How to join?

Contributors supply KSL with the valid Atom or RSS feed of the posts on their blog. Once registered and verified KSL will automatically and regularly extract all the latest entries from all of our contributors’ blogs and publish them as one group blog at our website.

When the title link is clicked it will go directly back to your site and we will only publish the first 350 words. If there are more then a Read more will appear and it will link back to your site. The copyrights to all posts are held by their authors; all posts are reprinted by permission.

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Watch out everyone, we are in our TERRIBLE 2s lol

Mystress Lady Evyl, administrator

I read a fabulous post recently online and I just had to share. It is about how subs should go about finding a Mistress the right way! This post is on Fetlife in the Submissive men and women who love them Group. I am particularly a fan of the last 2 points.

How To Find A Mistress

“How do I find a dominant woman?” is the number one topic started by new men to this group, and so I’ve decided to start a thread on that topic and make it sticky (git yer minds out of tha gutter! ) so that we can just refer new guys here.I don’t claim to be an expert and I don’t intend for my comments to be exhaustive or authoritative. There isn’t any official ANSI standard for proper sub-like behavior, and there isn’t any Instant Domme (Just Add Water).What I can offer is my experiences in my local BDSM scene. Your millage may vary. This thread is intended to be a work in progress.” by Naamaire

First off, Get Local. FetLife allows you to search groups by location. Find the groups in your area and join them. That’s where you’ll find the people in your area, and that’s where you’ll find out what’s going on in your town.

Next, Get Out. I doubt very seriously that leather clad dominatrices are canvassing your neighborhood looking for subs. (If they are, let me know where you live.) If you want to meet women, you have to go where the women are. Go to munches, go to play parties, go to educational events. Show up! If you don’t have time go out and try to meet people then you aren’t going to have much of a social life in any scene.

Make Friends. Don’t just spend your time hovering around Goddess Kickyouintheface, talk to everybody. You won’t like everybody, but you will find people that you can be comfortable and relax around, and being comfortable and relaxed makes you more attractive. Most local communities are very insular and everybody knows everybody. You may have no interest in playing with Sir Joe or Slave Ginger, but you could end up being friends with them and when their friend Ms Georgina is looking for a new boy-toy, your name may come up.

Get Involved. I can’t stress this one enough. Almost all BDSM events are run by volunteers and it is usually the same 10% of the people who do 90% of the work. Showing up early for set up or staying late for break down is the best networking tool I know. It’s easier to talk to people when you’re doing something, and people remember who helped set up.

Don’t Worry About The Kink. I know this sounds counter-intuitive since your ultimate goal is to find someone to explore the BDSM lifestyle with, but, honestly, the mechanics are not all that important. I have never personally seen a D/s couple break up over incompatibility of fetishes. If the relationship is solid, the kinks have a way of working themselves out. Just because a dominant woman doesn’t list A, B, and C on her profile doesn’t mean that she won’t ever be interested in doing A, B, or C with you. Once she realizes that doing something is a quick way to reduce you to a quivering ball of jelly it may become her favorite activity–but only if she cares about you as a person first.

Be A “Gentleman”. I’m not going to even try to define that word, only you can do that. But whatever your personal ideal of man who is worthy of respect is, be that. Remember, when all is said and done you are still a man looking for a woman. Leave the crap about “worthless worms” on the internet. Be the best man that you can be, your manners, your morals, your dress and grooming.

A little while back I wrote a blog about how I wanted to start offering workshops to small groups about various topics within our alternative lifestyle. Well the timing of my plans and the new ALCC could not have been more perfect!

The Alternative Lifestyle Community Center (Centre Communautaire pour les styles de vie Alternatifs de Montréal) is a free and open space where like minded individuals can meet, share, learn, build and create meaningful relationships, discover, and seek information without fear, judgment, or discrimination.

Last night I attended the grand opening and it was a huge success. I could only come for a short while and got there very early. I expected the place to be quiet. I was wrong…at 5h20pm the place was already packed. Such a great sign for the future! Countess Allura, a fabulous wonderful lady I am happy to call my friend, is the founder of this center. Amazing my dear! I am so proud of you!

And yes of course I will be giving my workshops here. I am very excited. I already have dates on the schedule. So COME SEE ME AT MY WORKSHOPS.

Wednesday, May 12

7-8pm: What is Protocol – Lady Evyl (English)

Wednesday, May 26

7-8pm: C’est quoi le Protocol – Lady Evyl (Français)

Wednesday, June 9

7-8pm: Let’s Have a Ball -CBT Intro – Lady Evyl (English)

Wednesday, June 16

7-8pm: On s’amuse avec les boules – Intro au CBT – Lady Evyl (Français)

More about the Alternative Lifestyle Community:

We provide information, education, counseling, socialization, and support through activities, workshops, seminars, discussion groups, certified psychologists, drop-in hours, and resource materials.

We welcome all people 18 years of age or older from any religion, culture, spirituality, race, age, distinction, minority, majority, orientation, identity, preference, sexuality, that may be curious about, questioning, or living an alternative lifestyle. We also welcome those who are concerned, opposing, or uncertain about alternative lifestyles and encourage you to come to the center to learn more.

We encourage you to drop by and ask questions, familiarize yourself with the various activities being offered at the center, or simply sit on our comfy couch and read some of the literature we have available.

The center is YOUR place to call your own and feel welcome.

Today is a sad day in the fashion world as it was announced that the avant-garde fashion designer, Alexander McQueen, was found dead in his flat in London a the age of 40. His death was ruled as suicide as he was found hanged. It is believed the death of his mother, nine days previous, pushed him to a major depression. Today his website simply says:

On behalf of Lee McQueen’s family, Alexander McQueen today announces the tragic news that Lee McQueen, the founder and designer of the Alexander McQueen brand has been found dead at his home. At this stage it is inappropriate to comment on this tragic news beyond saying that we are devastated and are sharing a sense of shock and grief with Lee’s family.Lee’s family has asked for privacy in order to come to terms with this terrible news and we hope the media will respect this.

—Alexander McQueen Office, Official Website, 11 February 2010

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What does it have to do with the subject matter of my blog? Well honestly I just recently became aware of his work. He is the designer of most the costume and famous hoof shoes that Lady Gaga wore in the Bad Romance video I bloged about recently which is dripping with BDSM connotations.

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After taking a closer look at his creations the BDSM  lifestylers in financial ease could make quite a fetish collection out of his creations. His style is a little goth, regal, Elizabethan or Victorian at other times. So in a way, it’s a loss to the fetish clothing industry too. RIP Alexander McQueen.

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I will be in Toronto next week to visit some friends, one of them being the lovely Miss Susan that you will recall visited me in February. Really who would have tought a random online friendship would have turned into a real amazing friendship. See my blog about her visit here.
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Anyways when we discussed my visit she insisted on the weekend of July 4th because there will be an awesome Femdom party held by The Queen’s Right. Can’t wait! Will try to drag my other vanilla friend there too Ha!
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Also I saw the Citadelle is up and running. Went once last year and had a blast. But I need a lift to go? Anyone plan ning on going after I get back from my holiday? Say starting July 11th? Let me know
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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Totally unrelated to BDSM…but thought it was worth sharing. A vanilla friend of mine shared this find with me and I though it was a great read.
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This divorced Montreal lady got back out into the dating scene though online dating sites…and she writes a blog about her dates. Its really funny and well written. Posts are sporadic but its really worth to add this blog to your RSS feed.
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Virtual Men
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Enjoy!
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UPDATE: Also received my very first Evyl Ties order, my store. And met a nice potential tonight….yayness….what a day!
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Excellent day…got to pieces of news.
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- I was invited to give a cell popping class at the Lifestyle Convention at the Power Exchange in Las Vegas (June 5, 2010)
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- I will become a toy tester and reviewer for Babeland.com
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Now if only I could find my good worthy slave  boy better half…hmm!
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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Have you been to a Midori workshop lately. I have not but I had the pleasure of attending a private dinner with her this past summer. It was a treat and a great night filled with dirty stories and laughter. Hopefully I will be at one of the following workshops near me coming soon, should money and chance be on my side:
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Toronto, Canada in May or June here is your chance..
TORONTO, CANADA
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~ Forte Femme, hosted by Come As You Are boutique:
When: Fri 6/19 through Sun 6/21 (Fri, 7pm – 10pm, Sat 9am – 6pm, Sun 9am – 6pm)
Where: A lovely, elegant hotel suite. Inquire with CAYA for specifics.
Cost: $475/per person. The last round of Forte Femme at this last-century tuition rate.
Register: http://tinyurl.com/ForteFemmeCAYA or call CAYA at 416.504.7934 or toll-free 1.877.858.3160
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~ 5/7 – 5/9 “Kinkalicious” 3 day sexy fun-fest! Presenting 3 workshops; “Becoming the Fantasy: Erotic Role Play for Couples” “Aural Sex: Seduction by Voice” “Art of Feminine Dominance”
http://kinkalicious.wordpress.com/

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Mystress Lady Evyl
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1) Woohoo my article submission at BME as accepted on Cell popping….check it out http://www.bmezine.com/scar/A90408/scrcellp.html
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2) Best website find in a LONG time…hours of fun can be wasted here…http://www.wonderhowto.com
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3) Had to share an adorable find. its actually a few months old and Angel first found it but thought it was cute enough to write about. A nice little fun purchase:
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Down, Boy! by Alice Ockleshaw
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It’s true that both men and dogs can be cute and cuddly, fiercely loyal and affectionate-imperfectly endearing. Then again, they can also make a complete mess of the house, ignore you completely, and be downright disobedient. Luckily, the tried-and-true rules for bringing up Fido can be easily applied to the man-dog in your life, and Down, Boy! provides you with everything you’ll need to keep him in line.
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This fun kit includes a flyswatter (to keep his hands off you at inappropriate moments), a mini water gun (to control his straying eyes), a score book (to chart his progress), a dog-training clicker (to make sure he pays attention), a refrigerator magnet (to remind him of the dos and do nots), sheets of helpful stickers (to teach him to “put the toilet seat down” and “put the TV remote away”), and a hilarious 64-page book of training techniques.
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Ultimately, your man will thank you for taking the time to train him properly-and for teaching him to be the best dog he can be.

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I LOVE the clicker best hehe!
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Mystress lady Evyl
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