Although I have been considering this for some time and have discussed with a select group of people, this does remain my first public announcement of my project in works. I am planning on offering private workshops for small groups.

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This past year has been a very educational year for me in the BDSM scene. Of course as any good Master or Mistress I keep up to date and try to learn, but what I mean is this year I started giving public workshops and demos. I was asked to give some of these and they were all a  success. I also really enjoy the experience of teaching and learning from others.

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However what I did not like for the Montreal aspect of these classes is that they were very unstructured, sort of throw last minute and irregular.Why is it the case? Well one reason I think is the up-swing fashionable Fetish scene has been overtaking the BDSM scene. True BDSM locals have become sparse and few or less accessible without a car. I know I am rambling now, sorry, its a bit of chip on my shoulder.

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Now I am not alone in offering workshops in Montreal at all, there are a few great teachers in Montreal. But there is no structure or local for it. This I find beyond frustrating. Also these were all without remuneration. Now I am not saying I want to make a huge amount of cash from it, but preparing a workshop is a lot of work and I do believe a small compensation is a minimum. Its a service like anything else.

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So as mentioned I am working on offering workshops to small groups in a private home. I don’t want to rent a space out to kep costs low and it’s more fun with a small group as there is more interaction. So stay tuned for announcements of a first workshop soon!

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God sometimes my mind is just baffeled when I read messages some subs send. The comments I hear sometimes are outrageous and so funny in their stupidity! Here is the latest one:
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“once I cum It’s hard for me to maintain a submissive status. the game ends then”
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OK so in other words once you got what you want you don’t give a shit anymore about being a sub…gee, I think some slept though D/s 101.
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A while back I toyed with the idea of a BDSM version of don’t date him girl. But I quickly dropped the idea cause it does have a childish, icky feeling to it (although some boys really deserve to be on it). But now I have a new idea. How about just 1 page devoted to stupid comments submissives or dominants may say during online exchanges, both male or female. I am sure I am not the only one that comes across moronic jewels.
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What do you think? Good idea, bad idea? Share some comments to you got in a comment below…keep it anonymous please as to who the pert was!
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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A how to video all men should practice
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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Rant of the day:
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Ever heard of the site dontdatehimgirl?
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A site where women can write about horrible examples of so called excuses of manhood. The bastard cheaters, liars, supposedly single, etc, etc, etc…
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God I wish there was such a list for subs. If it was not a guaranteed lawsuit in the making I would be so on it! Imagine saving time on ignoring a looser sub wannabe. I think I could fill a column up right away.
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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PS pic taken online, not an actual target of the list lol
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I was recently contacted by the editor-in-chief of this quarterly BDSM e-Zine. They asked if I would give them permission to publish an article I wrote on this blog and KSL for the nest issue.
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Well I was more then flattered and gave them permission. Its was released this week.
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I was even more surprised when I realized I was the leading article, the first mentioned at the top. Not bad for my first published experience. Here is the link to my article:Eco Sex and Green BDSM
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Check out the rest of the new issue of The Dominant’s View, its a really interesting e-zine and I am happy to have discovered.
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Happy reading
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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x-posted from Kinky Sex Link
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I have been a long time fan of the Open Source Sex podcast done by Violet Blue. She is a San Francisco sex educator, writer, editor, xxx film critic and overall great pervert. I love her podcast not just because of the material but especially the way in which she talks to her audience in an intelligent mature way. There is no dumming down of the listener. Unfortunately she does podcasts a lot less often.
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I did just listen to her last one and I strongly suggest anyone who blogs online to listen to it. Its about 1h15min long but fascinating. She talks on a panel with other experts about personal privacy and people blogging or posting online, particularly on a sexual topic. You think you picked a private username and you are safe…but you are wrong. Informing yourself is the best protection!
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Open Source Sex: Episode 64

Can anyone really be sexually anonymous online? Being outed, thinking you’re “anonymous”, trolls and stalkers taking advantage of online communities, porn laws resulting in performers being stalked, Google’s history logs tracking all of us, and paying for adult goods and services online safely: Internet sexual privacy affects everyone – and our rights. This panel brings together a spectrum of views on sexual privacy and identity, including controversial sex bloggers, a cyberlaw expert and a hacker who works for a social networking site. We’ll discuss and demonstrate how easy it is to lose control of your sexual identity online – and how to get it back, or keep it intact in the first place. You don’t have to be a sex blogger, answer the wrong Craigslist ad, or order a vibrator online to have your sexual identity messed with – sometimes all you need to be is female, LGBT, or just make a simple mistake when you hit “send”. The consequences can be devastating. We will explore what obstacles face maintaining personal privacy, including bad or unsympathetic online community management, system and social exploits (like Craigslist baiting and outing), stalkers and trolls, the legal aspects of sexual privacy online and their application for individuals, and what you can do to keep your sexual privacy, private.

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This affects me and all us BDSM or Sex bloggers directly. Its really worth the listen
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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x-posted on kinkysexlink
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A friend of mine recently sent me an article concerning eco-friendly sex. Which led me to think is there such a thing as eco-friendly BDSM? So I searched the net for answers and solutions. Well let me tell you there was not a whole lot out there. But I did find a few gems:
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Vegan condoms: yep…did you know regular condoms are not vegan? A milk protein called Casein is typically used in the manufacturing of latex for condoms. Does that mean its bad for those lactose intolerant too? Well fear not there is a solution. At this time there are two latex condoms on the market that don’t use casein in the manufacturing process: Glyde Condoms and Condomi. They are made with cocoa powder in place of milk protein.
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Sex Toys: A study in 2000 by German chemist Hans Ulrich Krieg found that 10 dangerous chemicals gassed out of some sex toys available in Europe, including diethylhexyl phthalates. Other studies on rats and mice claim that exposure of these toxic chemicals could cause cancer and damage the reproductive system. Also many popular erotic toys are made of polyvinyl chlorides (PVC) and softened with phthalates. These include soft jelly and cyberskin toys and novelties.
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So what are the eco-alternatives for green-conscious pleasure-seekers? The most ecologically correct choices may be metal, hard plastics, pure medical grade silicone, or glass dildos. Toys made of Polyethylene are a good choice to. Polyethylene is a plastic so although it is not biodegradable it can be recycled. VixSkin is a new silicone substitute and PVC can be replaced with thermoplastic elastomers.
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There are a few solar powered vibration toys that do not require batteries: the Solar Vibe, the Solar Sensations Micro-Kitty Strap-On, and the Solar Sensations 3 Piece Kit.
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Bits and pieces: you can purchase hemp sheets, organic massage oils, edibles, and beeswax candles or candles made from hydrogenated soybean oil or palm oil for atmosphere. Finally,  dimming the lights is a suave maneuver to lower kilowatt consumption.
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BDSM toys:Toys made of metal, nylon cord, rattan, Lorica (synthetic leather) and recycled rubber are a popular choice. Non vegans can choose leather. Here are some BDSM ecological toys:
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- Vegan Erotica is a webstore specialized in vegan BDSM toys.

- Bondage Duckie, yes this bad bathtub duckie is eco-friendly

- BadAss Paddles are no longer made but maybe you can find one second-hand. They are made from the scrap left over from the end of the roll of tire making companies.

- Dildo harnesses made from 100% recycled rubber

- I found a company that makes 100% vegan bondage toys. Its called Fresh and the products are very colorful and made from polyethylen.

- Wax play…well I mentioned above beeswax candles or candles made from hydrogenated soybean oil or palm oil. The thing is beeswax has a high temperature so its not a beginner’s candle play choice, its for the pain sluts only. The temperature for hydrogenated soybean oil or palm oil candles would be classified as moderate. If you want to try hold the candle way up so the wax has time to cool before hitting the body.
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Happy ecological sessions!
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Mystress Lady Evyl
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Now, now…no I am not talking about that one. No not the Marriage one. I am talking about Menstruation…and sex.

Ok if you are freaked out already stop reading this particular blog and move to the next. If you are curious or turned on…keep reading.

So I decided to google the topic and get informed. Boy was I disappointed. There is no positive textual work out there about it. You have the medical ‘Is it safe” sites and then menstruation fetish picture sites. NOTHING in btw. There was one site that said they used to have a good article but it was removed by the web owner gods of that site.

So why is this so taboo? Its nature, its natural and it is absolutely safe to have sex during a period. Actually I think its maybe better. God knows I get SO HORNY just before and at the beginning of my period. I get so wet. Plus its great for relieving cramps. And there is nothing dirty about menstrual blood. You won’t get poisoned by it. There is no risk at exposing yourself to the blood…unless the woman has a blood transmitted std and you have an open wound. So put on the condom like you would anyways and place a dark towel under the bed.

If you have a menstruation fetish PLEASE email me I would love to get a guy’s perspective on it.

Power to sex on the rag! Have a great week-end.

You need a little spice in your life? Wanna try something kinky, a little bondage, a little spanking? I now have a couple of regulars, now that a trust has been built, that tare wanting to try things a bit more out of the ordinary. Well I went to see how much this new ‘equipment’ may cost in a sex shop…FREAKING A LOT. So I decided to go check out the dollar store for substitutes and I hit the jackpot. Here are suggestions:

• Big collar for your slave: try the animal section. I found a big fake red leather dog collar perfect for a human neck.
• Restraints: a scarf or cut up pantyhose will do nicely.
• Handcuffs: toy section, yep, the cowboy kits. Sex shop ones are not under $20.
• Underwear to rip: I found nice thongs that can be destroyed.
• Feathers: arts and craft section.
• Nipple clamps: try clothes pins.
• Tingly sensation creams: tiger balm.
• Sex game: get a pack of cards, write a sex position in them and have your partner pick a card.
• Spanking paddle: kitchen section, choose a flat wood spatula to your liking.
• Costumes: Again, the toy section. Get a cops and robbers kits, cowboy and Indian, princess crowns, Hawaiian costume.

There are so many possibilities. Just go to your dollar store with a very creative mind and you will be surprised as to what can be metamorphosed into a kinky toy.

Let your imagination run wild.

Ever wanted to try light bondage but only one problem. You have nowhere on the bed to tie up your partner. Here is a great idea:

Visit your local hardware store and get standard-issue drawer pulls and screw them in strategic locations. You could even put them on the side of the bed and the bottom. It’s practical, cheap, and you can move them around if you’ve chosen bad spots.